When I was in high school
there were many times when I had misleading perception of people in my school. I’m
not necessarily judging but their attitude towards me when they approach me. I
remember I thought one of my classmates didn’t like me because he always gave
me a stare that just didn’t look pleasant. He was always mad in class, always
putting a grudge on his face. Therefore I believed he just hated everyone and
must be having bad days everyday. I really thought he was that kind of person
and whenever we had group projects I would try to not be in the same group
because he didn’t look social either. My friends actually knew him so it gave
me a chance to see what’s his problem and turned out he had horrible vision and
just wasn’t a morning person. I was surprised because he was a friendly person
and very humorous apparently. After that I never assumed anything until I
actually knew more about the person. I feel like observations don’t always give
you the exact prediction but more of a thought of what might be true.
I like that even though you initially weren’t drawn to this guy in your class you eventually got to know him. I have also initially thought something about a person just based on their behavior that I observed, and had changed my opinion upon getting to know them better. I think it is part of human nature to form initial opinions about people, especially when a person frequently behaves in a specific manor. What I think is important is that we go beyond our initial observations and make the effort to get to know them. I think more often than not our opinions may change, whether it is for the better or worst.
ReplyDeleteMy situation was kind of the opposite. A girl thought I did not like her when we initially met because I was quiet and did not keep up with the conversation when my group of friends was talking. I was just tired that day after a long night of studying, and I was not paying attention to anything. All I could think about was getting home and sleeping. Since I was tired, my facial expressions were not of being friendly, and she told me it looked as if I was mugging at her. I wasn’t trying to be mean, I was just tired. During our next encounter, we cleared everything up and things are good now between us.
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